SINGS OF A PERFECTIONIST
According
to Christine Hassler, who
speaks about sings of perfectionists in this video, there are ten signs of a
perfectionist. These are all or nothing thinking, having a critical eye and
ear, pushing too hard, setting unrealistic expectations, obsessing about
results, being depressed or disappointed by unmet goals, fearing failure, procrastinating,
being defensive and having low self-esteem. I especially agree with the idea
that perfectionists may have all-or-none principle, may be depressed or
disappointed by unmet goals and are likely to procrastinate their works.
Firstly, a perfectionist thinks that everything
must be perfect and flawless. If it is not, it is not good at all. For example,
a perfectionist student thinks he must get a full score of a paper or an exam. Otherwise,
he supposes he is totally unsuccessful. Secondly, he is depressed and
disappointed about unmet goals because he has unrealistic ones. His goals are
unattainable because he wants to do everything perfectly, on time and in a very
short time. Lastly, he may have a tendency to procrastinate his works because
of fearing failure. Failure is unacceptable for a perfectionist, so he may wait
too long to start doing anything.
In conclusion, if you have all-or-none
principle, are depressed because of unmet aims and postpone your works, you are
probably a perfectionist. In my opinion, desire to be perfect is like a virus. If
not be taken precautions in time, it just keeps spreading and harming you
psychologically, so try to get rid of it.
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